Developing Good Habits For Your Life

Competition is an inseparable part of business - to succeed, businesses have to compete with each other and only the best can survive. However, being the best is not only required in business, we know the term "survival of the fittest" from the early days. Competition is part of our daily activities, not necessarily for survival, in the pursuit of a rewarding and fulfilling life. The best competition is when we compete against ourselves, we strive for a better life and giving our best is the way we appreciate life.

Giving the best means giving the best efforts to the best of our abilities. Yet, efforts may require a lot of struggles and struggles can be quite painful for some people. Despite their good intention to do the best for their lives, people tend to shy away from pain. Can we be the best without having to struggle? Can we reach victory without sacrifice? It is part of human nature to want it easy. Butt, it is only fair to expect something if we are willing to pay for the price. There is no such thing as a free lunch. How can we make it easy, then?

Luckily, there is a mechanism in what we call "practice makes perfect." In the beginning, it is a struggle but as we do it more frequently, it is getting easier and easier until we gain a full mastery and everything becomes natural. This pattern applies to all aspects in our lives - whatever we do frequently will be a natural part of our daily lives, we'' do it even when we don't think about it. We call it a habit. Therefore, if we want competition to be easy, make it a habit. When we are used to giving our best efforts, we'll do it naturally, we are not even aware about it. When continued practices become a habit, we know for sure that it will be easy. It is only hard in the beginning, we just need to do it more often.

There is a downside of habit though. Once, we acquire it, it is really hard to dismiss. Therefore, be careful with our habits, we have to make sure that we develop only good habits. A bad habit can generate a life of it's own, we'll do it against our own will, for instance: smoking, gambling, drugs, etc. An addiction can be self destructive. But, just imagine that we are addicted to working hard, to giving the best, to being kind to people, to being generous. Life can be really beautiful and it is possible, isn't it?

After all, it is the action that matters. What we do create impacts, whether we are aware of it or not, whether we like it or not. Make sure that we know what we do, that we know our habits. Make sure that we only develop good habits.


Rini Palupi Radikun
Developing Good Habits For Your Life
RiniRdk@yahoo.com

Learning To Be Grateful

When a lady just went through a difficult relationship with her boyfriend, we told her to 'be grateful'.
When a young adult has just managed to get out from an abusive parent, we told him to 'be grateful'.
When a mom is having difficulties with a grown up son that no longer listened to her, we told her to 'be grateful'.

So what does 'be grateful' mean?
How do you define 'being grateful'?
How do you 'be grateful'? How do you practice 'being grateful'?
Sure, in Indonesian language we can translate it to 'syukur'.
But how do we convert the word 'being grateful' into real daily life style?

One of the experience that I have of 'letting go' was when I was fortunate enough to be told of a story by Bima. You see, Bima is a volunteer at Dilts Fondation (www.diltsfoundation.org) where they take care of unfortunate children.

There is one time when they decided to do a documentation on the children of 'pemulung' (people who pick up trash and then sell them for a living.)

He told me the story of how he follow one of the children, namely Udi, through his daily activity. Udi is already up and out of the house every morning by 3.30am or the latest 4am. Why so early? Because as the saying goes, early bird gets the worm. Once he gets up too late, all the available pickings are gone take by the other 'pemulung'. So Udi must gets up on time to earn his living. It's either that or less money or maybe even none for the day.

Udi goes to his work by foot. Bare footed in fact. Hmm... how come he is not afraid of stepping into anything sharp on the way? He is used to it. While Bimo followed Udi on motorcycle, Udi was walking all the way to his working place which is maybe 2km or even 3km from his home. After reaching his working place then Udi proceed to picking up the trash in that area. How come only in that area and not anywhere else? It's because that is the area designated from him. Picking up trash at another place risks conflict with another 'pemulung' and perhaps even a 'rent fee' from the owner of the place. Once, his basket is full, Udi headed back to place where he can sell his trash pickings. Back and forth, until the time comes for lunch. Where do you think he has his lunch? Right there. On the spot, where he picks his trash. Not worried about typhoid or dysentry or similar disease. "Where else can we eat? After all, eating at another place will simply waste the travel time that can be better used to pick up trash which translates to more money."

Hmm.... ever wonder about that?
Perhaps the next time you complain about anything in your life, you might want to take a day off work and meet Udi.

Daniel Linuar
Learning To Be Grateful

www.andriewongso.com

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ABOUT MOTIVATE

MOTIVATION

Motivation is to provide a person with a motive to action with positive energy and determination. It's a state of mind that moves one individual into action. The best way to recharge the battery of your motivation is to create desires. An inner drive inherent in all, Motivation plays an important role in intellectual, emotional, and professional success and development.

The time for motivation will only ever be RIGHT NOW.

When we learn to take responsibility for every aspect of our lives, motivated success can only but follow, it is inevitable, like the force of the tides and as sure as the sun. Self motivation need merely have its humble beginnings right here, for when we truly accept that we create our realities, then we are firmly in control.

And the best part about being motivated, in control and taking responsibility for our ‘doings’ and more importantly, our ‘thinkings’, is then being able to renounce control and swim with the fishes and dream with the wind. It is often in our letting go that we truly wake up.

MOTIVATION NOW!

Putting off achieving your goals merely creates a void in your life, a sense of waiting for something to happen. This waiting can actually become the most tangible part of the dream and in this state we often never get motivated or courageous enough to dive in head-first. Start small, big things will follow:

To be self-motivated - BE FIRST!

• Be the first to smile.
• Be the first to forgive.
• Be the first to congratulate.
• Be the first to take action.
• …be the last to complain, the last to frown and the last to give up.

To be self-motivated - BE CONFIDENT!

• Take your confidence from the beauty of nature.
• Take your confidence from compassion; become skilled at listening and learn much before you teach.

To be self-Motivated – LIVE LIFE 100%

• Make mistakes and make them boldly; you get no do-overs in each life here. Mistakes can be our greatest teachers.
• Get out of your comfort-zone often. This gets empty and un-challenging. Make new discoveries, new friends, new ideas often and without fear.
• Remember that doubt and fear are only thoughts, and we have control over them at every second of every day.
• Pain, disappointment, hurt, love-lost are divine catapults into a greater awareness of who we are where we are going. From great suffering comes great accomplishment.
• Today doesn’t have to be the same as yesterday, you can make it better. Remember, the time to self-motivate will only ever be RIGHT NOW.

The keys to achieving this are ACTION and POSITIVITY.

If you think you can and truly believe it so and then take the first fledgling step of action, you have completed half your goal already.

Even more powerful is to think it already done. Close your eyes, see it, feel how great it feels to have achieved your goal and then set the importance of the outcome free.

Open your eyes, stretch your arms to the sun, take a deep energizing breath and take that first step…

You have just motivated yourself towards the creation of your dream…

Theory of Motivation

Theory of Motivation

An inner drive inherent in all, Motivation plays an important role in intellectual, emotional, and professional success and development. Due to its imperative role and importance in the lives of individuals, Motivation has been a field of much research and study by psychiatrists, researchers, counsellors, academicians, and others. And such theorists have propounded several theories which explain the different motivating factors behind the behaviour of individuals.

Thus, Motivation Theory refers to the body of knowledge which explains the causal factors behind the drive called Motivation, which leads individuals to seek and achieve their goals.

Motivation theories can be divided into different categories such as Drive theories, Incentive theories, Optimal-level theories, and Opponent-process theories.

In Drive theories, the importance is on internal driving states, such as aggressive or sexual urges, as emphasised by Sigmund Freud, which are believed to drive individuals to their goal-seeking behaviour. Incentive theories focus upon particular goals or incentives and believe that the attainment of such goals creates an inner drive within individuals to achieve it. Individuals derive pleasure from seeking positive incentives or goals.

Opponent-process theories believe that individuals usually strive for those goals which have a positive emotional feeling attached with them. Optimal-level theories state that there is an optimal level of arousal or motivation level which is sought and maintained by individuals by seeking certain goals.

Famous psychologists have contributed to this body of knowledge. American psychologist Maslow is particularly famous in this regard, who proposed that people are usually motivated to achieve a hierarchical pyramid of needs, or the hierarchy of needs, with basic needs at the bottom and emotional needs such as esteem and ego-satisfaction at the top end of the pyramid. According to him, people fulfil their basic needs before travelling up to satisfy other needs.

Motivation Theories have also been propounded to explain the work motivation of employees at workplaces. Among them Douglas McGregor states that the motivation of employees lies not in cash or money, but in the nature of the work and opportunity for self-improvement.

Motivation theories vary in their approach and focus. Yet, in spite of their variance from one another, they have made our understanding of the concept of Motivation better and more insightful.

Key word : Law of Motivation :

1. We must be motivated before give a motivation

2. Motivation need some object

3. Motivation, once time appear, never well preserved

4. Motivation need confession

5. Participation is motivation

6. Looking our self did well wiil make our self be motivated

7. You must won from the challennge of motivation

8. Possessively on your team will make your self be motivated

9. The leader who gives an inspiration will make the team be motivated

Team work?????

Motivation in Team Work

One reason why the motivation level falls in a workplace may be the temporariness of the job. The prospect of unemployment after the completion of the project may vitiate the focus and motivation of the workforce, howsoever, well paid they may be. A comparatively lower yet assured income for a longer period is much more welcome than a higher salary for a shorter term.

An important factor that determines the motivation level is the element of challenge. When confronted with a challenge, the survival instinct called fright or fight comes into action. Our defense mechanism becomes ultra activated and triggers us to act in face of challenges. We either run away from the challenging situation out of fright or fight against it by taking it up vigorously head on. A challenge to the survival instinct quite often turns even the mediocres into heroes. There are stories of disabled persons running for life when they find themselves facing the life and death situation during the accidents like fire.

The challenge itself during such situation acts as a fierce motivator.

There may be similar situations involving challenge where even the strong willed and able bodied people give up. When the level of difficulty or the challenge becomes too high or is perceived impossible, even the well qualified and efficient team loses motivation at the workplace.

Conversely, even the mediocre workers lose interest, if the level of difficulty is too low or easy and its implementation is not sufficiently challenging. So it is important for the management to create a worthy and a balanced challenge mechanism to stimulate the workers to keep moving to attain a sense of accomplishment after the completion of the project.

A situation may arise when a worker or the whole team may sometime intentionally become slack or even strike work and no amount of threat to their livelihood can induce them to work with motivation and enthusiasm. Quite possibly some action or policy by the management may have clashed with the fundamental beliefs and ideals of the employees. A Hindu soldier or that matter a Muslim may prefer to die rather than accept high rewards and appreciation for attacking a temple or a mosque.

Quite often we are told that the needs and wants are the great motivation drivers for the workers. People work to satiate their hunger and nourish themselves. But the same people take to hunger strike and refuse to eat. In such situations a higher need or want takes over. It is the need to make a point about an issue which assumes greater importance and becomes larger than the life itself.

A spirit of fellowship, equality and camaraderie where the members of a team like each other and enjoy working together strengthens the sense of loyalty and the unity of purpose.

The team of workers should be entrusted with responsibility and power to accomplish a task. These two elements tend to sustain the motivation at a higher level over a long period. But again, maintaining a healthy balance between the two elements is a tricky affair. If a worker is asked to accomplish a job with a threatening responsibility accompanied with dire consequences, he may either run away from it or overact out of fear and thus defeat the purpose of his deployment.

Responsibility involving punishment for mistakes is a negative motivator. The fear of consequences can only be a short term motivator, but its sustained use may threaten the person away from the work itself. It is difficult to maintain a high level of performance when the whole energy required to perform is sapped and vitiated by the fear.

The environment at workplace should be conducive for learning new skills, concepts, experience and knowledge. Personal growth ensures brighter future prospects. The opportunities of advancement of knowledge impart a value addition-- in form of self esteem and self worth-- to the routine rewards and remuneration and enhance the level of motivation.

Key Word : To make your team to be motivated, you must :

1. Give a good work condition to team
2. Clearly about mission of business
3. Give a specific perpose for team
4. Allways remember about your crew
5. Give a some success
6. Make sure that your team always carry well
7. Try to be a motivating leader

Its a beautiful day......

Daily Motivation

The monotony of the daily routine work sucks away all the zeal out of it and your motivation and gusto for work, howsoever strong it initially might be, is drained out. You feel tired and you do not feel like working. Your productivity suffers and raises the eyebrows of your employer. It disturbs you deeply if you are self employed. The lack of motivation for your work is a great challenge.

The best way to recharge the battery of your motivation is to create desires. Visualize clearly the fruits of your efforts. Your dream to buy a beautiful new house in the lush mountains can be realized if you maintain the tempo of your work. Be your own salesman. Sell your dreams to yourself. Place a picture of your dream house on your table. Look at it; admire it whenever you feel tired.

Lack of motivation to act may affect you in many other walks of life, besides your business. Your spouse is about to walk away from your house. Life without her would spell disaster for you and your children. But you are diffident in taking up issue with her.

One way to motivate you to talk out with her is to mentally picturize your children crying for her after she goes away. The sad predicament of your children in trying to choose between you and your spouse may motivate you and you may feel like talking with her at once and clearing off the cobwebs of mistrust. The pain of not acting may motivate you to take action to restore peace to your family life.

Keep a book of scriptures containing inspirational and motivational sermons on your study table.

Read it the first thing regularly after taking your bath in the morning. The central theme of Gita, the holy text of the Hindus, for example, is to perform your duty of karma or taking action without bothering about the rewards. Numerous books of motivational sayings are available in the market. Buy one and read it daily, or, whenever your spirits go down. Read the success stories of millionaires or those who rose to power and glory by dint of untiring hard work. Subscribe to a website that sends you an inspiring saying or two daily to keep you up and running. Several daily newspapers contain motivational lines on their editorial pages which appear regularly at fixed spots. Make a habit of reading them daily as you take your morning cup of tea.

Develop the habit of saying some prayer daily on the lines of: Give us this day our daily bread. Substitute the words ‘daily bread’ with some suitable phrases and words like ‘keep me up and going today’ or any others that suit your temperament.

Share and discuss your plans and dreams with your partner or wife. She may goad you up and provide reasons for carrying on with your work if you slump down. The embarrassment of not keeping up your promises or acting to realize them may keep you running on the track.

If you have children, remember that you are a role model for them and if you allow yourself to be run down by your moodiness and lethargy you will be setting a negative example for them. Late rising parents inculcate late rising habits in their children also. Go for morning walks or take exercises daily to keep your energy level up. Sick and weak body creates numerous excuses for not working.

Always remain aware of what will happen if you do not act today. Nobody else is going to carry your burden for you. Think deeply of the happy consequences of acting and unhappy ones of postponing.

Take your work as a challenge like climbing a difficult and treacherous rout to a mountain top. Challenges build confidence, vigor and excitement. Think of the spectacular view that you alone would enjoy while standing triumphantly on its summit.

Key Word : If you want a beautiful day in your daily day, you must kow about dissolving of motivation :

1. Not confident enough
2. Apprehensive about
3. Negatif Opinion
4. Feeling “ Nothing future in here”
5. Feeling “How not important it is for…..”
6. Not to know beans about something happen in here
7. A False Confession
8. Not Training enough